Comments on: Widowhood 101 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/ Sun, 01 Aug 2010 23:43:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Hotclue http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/comment-page-1/#comment-6621 Hotclue Thu, 24 Jul 2008 19:22:42 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/#comment-6621 Well, it's already different, but there's both good and bad. Right now, with the help of friends, some of whom I've never met, the good is outweighing the bad. My glass is half full. I suspect I'll be filling it a little at a time, no major changes expected at this time. The major thing is, the pressure is gone except for little things here and there. So of course I'm going to add to the pressure and see about selling my new book. Am I a glutton for punishment or what. '-) Thanks for dropping by. Please come back soon. Well, it’s already different, but there’s both good and bad. Right now, with the help of friends, some of whom I’ve never met, the good is outweighing the bad. My glass is half full. I suspect I’ll be filling it a little at a time, no major changes expected at this time. The major thing is, the pressure is gone except for little things here and there. So of course I’m going to add to the pressure and see about selling my new book. Am I a glutton for punishment or what. ‘-)

Thanks for dropping by. Please come back soon.

]]> By: Marilyn Meredith http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/comment-page-1/#comment-6613 Marilyn Meredith Thu, 24 Jul 2008 13:58:50 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/#comment-6613 Oh my,Beth,I hope you're healing. Because for years I ran a home for developmentally disabled women, I had experience with someone with Alzheimer's. One of my gals who lived with us for years, started forgetting how to do things, and over several years finally could no longer walk, dress herself, or walk, and became incontinent. I loved her like one of my kids, but my license wouldn't let me keep her. She went to a nursing home, then to a wonderful small (6 bed) nursing facility where she lived until she passed away. So much worse when it's your spouse. Getting older is hard. Sounds like the old Beth is showing up again. You'll be building a different life I suspect. Marilyn Oh my,Beth,I hope you’re healing. Because for years I ran a home for developmentally disabled women, I had experience with someone with Alzheimer’s. One of my gals who lived with us for years, started forgetting how to do things, and over several years finally could no longer walk, dress herself, or walk, and became incontinent. I loved her like one of my kids, but my license wouldn’t let me keep her. She went to a nursing home, then to a wonderful small (6 bed) nursing facility where she lived until she passed away.

So much worse when it’s your spouse. Getting older is hard.

Sounds like the old Beth is showing up again. You’ll be building a different life I suspect.

Marilyn

]]> By: Hotclue http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/comment-page-1/#comment-6612 Hotclue Thu, 24 Jul 2008 13:44:35 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/#comment-6612 And you are special too, Maryann. Thank you for passing my blog on, as Pat did. I hope it helps anyone else who may read it. And thank you for being so kind, as you always are. And you are special too, Maryann. Thank you for passing my blog on, as Pat did. I hope it helps anyone else who may read it. And thank you for being so kind, as you always are.

]]> By: Hotclue http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/comment-page-1/#comment-6611 Hotclue Thu, 24 Jul 2008 13:31:55 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/#comment-6611 Oh, Ned, thank you for writing this. I knew about your son from reading your posts on AllAboutMurder, but of course none of us were aware of the personal tragedy you were still living. Your story reminds me of another much like it that I remember. A few years ago an author who was also a friend of mine committed suicide, and her husband was also suspected of murder because this author had brain cancer and had left a diary with many entries about her husband, none of which were true. I was appalled when I heard about that, because she had always been so in love with him, and those who knew him knew what a truly wonderful guy he was, and still is, I assume, having lost touch with him. But her death, and her disease took its toll with him, too, and he had a terrible time just living with the contents of that diary after she was gone. Life and fate play their tricks on us, and not all are good tricks. But if we're strong enough, we survive and go on to hopefully do some good things with our lives. So I hope it is for you. Oh, Ned, thank you for writing this. I knew about your son from reading your posts on AllAboutMurder, but of course none of us were aware of the personal tragedy you were still living.

Your story reminds me of another much like it that I remember. A few years ago an author who was also a friend of mine committed suicide, and her husband was also suspected of murder because this author had brain cancer and had left a diary with many entries about her husband, none of which were true. I was appalled when I heard about that, because she had always been so in love with him, and those who knew him knew what a truly wonderful guy he was, and still is, I assume, having lost touch with him. But her death, and her disease took its toll with him, too, and he had a terrible time just living with the contents of that diary after she was gone.

Life and fate play their tricks on us, and not all are good tricks. But if we’re strong enough, we survive and go on to hopefully do some good things with our lives. So I hope it is for you.

]]> By: Maryann Miller http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/comment-page-1/#comment-6610 Maryann Miller Thu, 24 Jul 2008 13:13:42 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2008/07/19/widowhood-101/#comment-6610 Beth, thank you so much for sharing your story. It is beautiful. I am going to link to it from my blog and from Twitter. I think a lot of people who have recently lost spouses will benefit from reading this. You are special. Beth, thank you so much for sharing your story. It is beautiful. I am going to link to it from my blog and from Twitter. I think a lot of people who have recently lost spouses will benefit from reading this.

You are special.

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