Comments on: Can You Say “NARCISSIST”? http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/ Published Author Beth Anderson Fri, 27 Jan 2012 13:11:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Hotclue http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/comment-page-1/#comment-374 Hotclue Fri, 27 Oct 2006 17:46:42 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/#comment-374 And Nancy E, one day soon you'll cut him out of your life forever and yes, it'll take a while, but after some time passes, you'll find your heart is harder than you ever thought possible toward him and you'll be able to turn away and never look back. Love like you've described is usually just physical attraction anyhow, and that never lasts. I'd be mad about the flowers too, and he deserves not to have you to come back to. In fact, you need to take the final step yourself. You will recover and someone else WILL find you attractive. That's the worst thing about these guys. They make you feel so ugly and worthless somehow, when in reality, they're the ugly ones inside and out. Thanks for writing, Nancy. I hope it helps a lot of other people stuck in a relationship like this one. Hugs, Hotclue And Nancy E, one day soon you’ll cut him out of your life forever and yes, it’ll take a while, but after some time passes, you’ll find your heart is harder than you ever thought possible toward him and you’ll be able to turn away and never look back. Love like you’ve described is usually just physical attraction anyhow, and that never lasts. I’d be mad about the flowers too, and he deserves not to have you to come back to. In fact, you need to take the final step yourself. You will recover and someone else WILL find you attractive. That’s the worst thing about these guys. They make you feel so ugly and worthless somehow, when in reality, they’re the ugly ones inside and out. Thanks for writing, Nancy. I hope it helps a lot of other people stuck in a relationship like this one.
Hugs, Hotclue

]]> By: NANCY http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/comment-page-1/#comment-373 NANCY Fri, 27 Oct 2006 16:53:54 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/#comment-373 THIS IS IN RESPONSE TO TERRY, WHO ASKED ABOUT THE NARCISSIST MAN IN HER LIFE. IT IS SO TRUE. I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN I LOVE SO MUCH WHO IS A NARCISSIST AND IT WILL NEVER GO ANYWHERE. HE IS SO GOOD AT MAKING ME BELIEVE THAT HE LOVES ME AND THINGS WILL CHANGE, BUT AFTER A FEW MONTHS HE DISCARDS ME LIKE A PIECE OF TRASH AND FORGETS I EVER EXISTED UNTIL HIS NEW SOURCE OF ATTENTION GETS WISE AND LEAVES HIM, HE ALWAYS COMES CRAWLING BACK TO ME, MAKING ME THINK EVERYTHING WAS MY FAULT AS TO WHY WE BROKE UP. I DON'T KNOW WHY I KEEP HIM IN MY LIFE. THEY ARE MASTERS AT DECEPTION AND NOTHING IS EVER THEIR FAULT, ALWAYS OURS. HE DRAINED ME FINANCIALLY BEFORE I KNEW WHAT WAS HAPPENING. I KNOW HE IS NO GOOD, BUT I CAN'T SEEM TO GET MY HEART TO BELIEVE IT. IT MAKES ME FEEL ANGRY AT MYSELF FOR LETTING HIM DO THIS TO ME FOR SO MANY YEARS. I THINK I HAVE LET HIM GET ME SO DOWN I FEEL AS IF NO ONE ELSE WILL WANT ME. IN EIGHT YEARS HE ALWAYS SAID NEVER TO EXPECT FLOWERS OR LITTLE GIFTS, THAT HE JUST DOES NOT DO THAT STUFF. ONE OF THE TIMES HE SUDDENLY DISCARDED ME, I FOUND OUT HE SENT HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND FLOWERS AFTER JUST KNOWING HER FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS. THAT HURT MORE THAN I CAN TELL YOU! HE TRIED TO EXPLAIN IT TO ME, BUT THERE ISN'T ANYTHING IN THE WORLD THAT WILL MAKE ME UNDERSTAND THAT ONE. IT WAS A TURNING POINT FOR ME, THOUGH, MY HEART HARDENED ALOT TOWARDS HIM OVER THE FLOWERS, AND I THINK THAT MAY BE THE THING THAT GETS ME PAST ALL THE LOVE I THINK I FEEL FOR HIM. SOMETHING WILL SNAP FOR YOU, TOO, SOMEDAY AND OPEN YOUR EYES TO WHAT HE IS TRULY LIKE, AND YOU WILL WONDER WHY YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU LOVED HIM. IT IS HARD, AND IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO GET THIS POINT. I AM STILL NOT WHERE I NEED TO BE, BUT GETTING CLOSER EACH TIME HE HURTS ME AND SHOWS NO REMORSE OR THE SLIGHTEST REGARD FOR MY FEELINGS. GOOD LUCK. NANCY E. THIS IS IN RESPONSE TO TERRY, WHO ASKED ABOUT THE NARCISSIST MAN IN HER LIFE. IT IS SO TRUE. I HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN I LOVE SO MUCH WHO IS A NARCISSIST AND IT WILL NEVER GO ANYWHERE. HE IS SO GOOD AT MAKING ME BELIEVE THAT HE LOVES ME AND THINGS WILL CHANGE, BUT AFTER A FEW MONTHS HE DISCARDS ME LIKE A PIECE OF TRASH AND FORGETS I EVER EXISTED UNTIL HIS NEW SOURCE OF ATTENTION GETS WISE AND LEAVES HIM, HE ALWAYS COMES CRAWLING BACK TO ME, MAKING ME THINK EVERYTHING WAS MY FAULT AS TO WHY WE BROKE UP. I DON’T KNOW WHY I KEEP HIM IN MY LIFE. THEY ARE MASTERS AT DECEPTION AND NOTHING IS EVER THEIR FAULT, ALWAYS OURS.
HE DRAINED ME FINANCIALLY BEFORE I KNEW WHAT WAS HAPPENING. I KNOW HE IS NO GOOD, BUT I CAN’T SEEM TO GET MY HEART TO BELIEVE IT. IT MAKES ME FEEL ANGRY AT MYSELF FOR LETTING HIM DO THIS TO ME FOR SO MANY YEARS. I THINK I HAVE LET HIM GET ME SO DOWN I FEEL AS IF NO ONE ELSE WILL WANT ME. IN EIGHT YEARS HE ALWAYS SAID NEVER TO EXPECT FLOWERS OR LITTLE GIFTS, THAT HE JUST DOES NOT DO THAT STUFF. ONE OF THE TIMES HE SUDDENLY DISCARDED ME, I FOUND OUT HE SENT HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND FLOWERS AFTER JUST KNOWING HER FOR A COUPLE OF WEEKS.
THAT HURT MORE THAN I CAN TELL YOU! HE TRIED TO EXPLAIN IT TO ME, BUT THERE ISN’T ANYTHING IN THE WORLD THAT WILL MAKE ME UNDERSTAND THAT ONE. IT WAS A TURNING POINT FOR ME, THOUGH, MY HEART HARDENED ALOT TOWARDS HIM OVER THE FLOWERS, AND I THINK THAT MAY BE THE THING THAT GETS ME PAST ALL THE LOVE I THINK I FEEL FOR HIM. SOMETHING WILL SNAP FOR YOU, TOO, SOMEDAY AND OPEN YOUR EYES TO WHAT HE IS TRULY LIKE, AND YOU WILL WONDER WHY YOU EVER THOUGHT YOU LOVED HIM. IT IS HARD, AND IT TOOK ME A LONG TIME TO GET THIS POINT. I AM STILL NOT WHERE I NEED TO BE, BUT GETTING CLOSER EACH TIME HE HURTS ME AND SHOWS NO REMORSE OR THE SLIGHTEST REGARD FOR MY FEELINGS. GOOD LUCK. NANCY E.

]]> By: Hotclue http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/comment-page-1/#comment-178 Hotclue Thu, 11 May 2006 18:58:36 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/#comment-178 Will do, Jasmine! I'll have it delivered by special messenger, and don't worry about paying me back. The Count says any friend of mine is a friend of his. ;-) As for the man-woman thing, isn't it amazing what we'll put up with. But this young woman was fighting a completely losing battle, I thought. Big hugs, The Hotclue Will do, Jasmine! I’ll have it delivered by special messenger, and don’t worry about paying me back. The Count says any friend of mine is a friend of his. ;-)

As for the man-woman thing, isn’t it amazing what we’ll put up with. But this young woman was fighting a completely losing battle, I thought.

Big hugs,
The Hotclue

]]> By: Yasmine Phoenix http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/comment-page-1/#comment-177 Yasmine Phoenix Thu, 11 May 2006 04:22:46 +0000 http://www.bethanderson-hotclue.com/blog/2006/05/10/can-you-say-narcissist/#comment-177 So true, Hotclue. The problem with a lot of women is, they think they can change a man. You can change a diaper when it's smelly and wet, but change a man!! I don't think so. Sometimes, a woman will 'think' they're in love, cause the idiot looked in their direction and asked for help as they talk about themselves. Women interpret that as being part of the man's life. There's no room in that man's life for anyone other than himself. So, while you're shopping in London, pop on over to Paris and pick me up some Louis Vuitton luggage. I'm good for paying you back - on an installment plan of course. So true, Hotclue. The problem with a lot of women is, they think they can change a man. You can change a diaper when it’s smelly and wet, but change a man!! I don’t think so. Sometimes, a woman will ‘think’ they’re in love, cause the idiot looked in their direction and asked for help as they talk about themselves. Women interpret that as being part of the man’s life. There’s no room in that man’s life for anyone other than himself. So, while you’re shopping in London, pop on over to Paris and pick me up some Louis Vuitton luggage. I’m good for paying you back – on an installment plan of course.

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